Dealing with Mishaviors


Misbehavior is a natural part of growing up, and all kids will sometimes misbehave. This is an information sheet focusing on three questions: why children misbehave, how to deal with and how to prevent misbehaviors. The reasons for misbehaviors can be quite different in different situations. Try to find out why your kids misbehave before dealing with it. Are they tired, hungry, sleepy, or uncomfortable? Are they seeking your attention, or independence? Maybe they cannot control their emotions: anxious, overexcited, or bored; or they lack skills: unable to do what is expected of them. Are they reacting to violence, screaming or insults, or imitating someone else, or testing limits or rules.

After figuring out the reason, try to deal with misbehaviors wisely. Stay calm, no shouting or attacking. Redirect kids to more appropriate behaviors, and offer them choices. Teach kids disciplines. Disapprove the behavior, not the child. Remember that every child will sometimes misbehave.

To prevent misbehaving in the future, make a few important rules that you can enforce; state the rules clearly and help your child understand the rules. Anticipate problems before they happen. Listen to your kids, and look for signs that show their moods. Communicate with kids frequently and patiently. Listen to what they say and feel, and look for signs that show their moods. Praise kids with words, hugs, and smiles, when they are doing a good job. Describe the behavior that you value specifically. As parents, we should be a good example, and be consistent with the kids. Most importantly, be patient and stay calm.